Month: January 2018

When you squeeze an orange what comes out?

I’ve been thinking lately about my late pal Wayne Dyer. We disagreed about almost everything that is important but I have never read anything he wrote or heard anything he said when I didn’t come away a little wiser. It’s a testament to his ability to touch people and to communicate timeless principles. One thing he talked about that has always stuck with me was squeezing an orange. In his typical childlike way he asked that you imagine him holding up an orange. “What happens when I squeeze it?” It’s an easy question but you’re thinking hard about a trick answer. He laughs and says “Orange juice comes out! Why?” You contort again, looking for the trick. He answers his own question: “Because orange juice is inside!” He smiles and thinks this is hilarious. Then he hones in on the point. Don’t imagine that you are different, he explains. When you get squeezed – when work is hard or when Uncle Joe tells you how pretty you used to be as a child or when you are heart-broken – things come out. They come out because they are what’s inside. Then, since he hardly ever answered his own questions, he asks again: so what comes out of you when you’re squeezed? Sometimes I get squeezed. I get home late and the dog just peed on the floor. What comes...

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Food Babe and Coconut Water? How To Sort Out Health Advice

Food Babe and Coconut Water? What Gives? Food Babe and coconut water? Bulletproof coffee? Chelation in Mexico? How in the world can you sort out what makes sense when it comes to healthy living? Here are some guidelines. Here’s an actual conversation I overheard in our company break room: You have got to try this stuff. It’s completely awesome. And scientific too! I spent like a week on the internet doing research. I’d never even heard of ketones before and now I’m drinkin’ this stuff. I’m losing weight like crazy and I feel like I’m eighteen! It’s not cheap...

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Are There Benefits from Drinking Charcoal? Yes. If You Drink Nuclear Fuel

Are There Benefits From Drinking Charcoal? I was wrong. I guessed that fermented mango rind would be the next pseudo-science superfood. It’s just a matter of putting three words together and making something up. That’s basically the same formula supplement sales companies use. But an email from Dave Asprey of Bulletproof caught me off guard. The Next Big Thing is charcoal. And not just the briquettes you buy at Ace Hardware for a few bucks a bag. Nutrition grade activated coconut charcoal. It’s got to be good, right? It’s made from coconut! Since getting the email from Bulletproof urging...

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Do You Need a Billboard for People to Know What You Stand For?

A while ago, on another blog, I wrote about a woman vying for attention on the show The Bachelor. She was from small-town Missouri and showed a video clip of her hometown and family. She ended with an emphatic note: she knew who she was, she liked where she lived, and, for her, life was all about faith, family, and football. It reads like a hackneyed Southern cliche but I was impressed. For all the journaling and meditation and introspection people do, how many are able to stare you down and smack the table and say “This is who I am!” Not many. We are far too kind and unsure of ourselves. It’s easier to buy a tee-shirt that says “I’m fierce!” than to actually be fierce. I went out to dinner with a friend recently who had the same attitude. We were talking about work and family and about a particular thing he needed to do. I said, “Ouch. That’s gonna draw out a little conflict.” As West Coast Den, I tend to shy away from conflict. Not this guy. He laughed out load and said, “I’m a public works contractor. Conflict is what I do.” Then he laughed again. It was meaningless to him. And fun and funny. Could you sum up who you are and what you stand for? In just a few words? With a...

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So You Want To Quit Smoking? Tips and Tricks.

Want To Quit Smoking? Or Quit Something? Three Stories. It’s the time of year to take up arms against your demons. They come in all shapes and sizes. Some are irritating. Some are ruthless and will kill you. It’s up to you to decide what to do about them. Maybe you like them? This post is about lightening up a little bit and getting to know yourself better. It’s about me and two good friends. We all used to smoke. Not like a chimney or a vaper but smokers nonetheless. Truth is that few things in my life were...

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Does Language Create Emotions?

“Dammit! I am completely incensed with you!” How do you feel just reading that line? I can feel my defenses rising and I wrote the thing. That’s how wired we are for certain words. Without any forethought, we have an instant reaction. How about these? “I’m absolutely pissed off!” “That completely angers me!” “I cannot tell you how much that irritates me!” “Man, I’m peeved!” Tony Robbins uses these responses to talk about how we create our own emotional states through communication and self-talk. He argues that when we shout “I am incensed!” those words circle back through our ears and drive us even further toward those feelings. The more we shout and dwell on being incensed the more create that state within us. His advice is to tone down your self-talk.  Work on being peeved instead of absolutely pissed off.  My addition to that advice is to think about it before hand – you won’t remember to play nice when the heat is turned up. Another interesting tidbit about language: New research tells us that we instinctively alter our language when talking to babies. All of us do this for any baby. The language is called motherese and is characterized by ‘ high-pitched, exaggerated language full of short, slow phrases and big vocal swoops.’ It appears to be entirely instinctual and has a comforting or bonding response in...

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